Culture is the culprit

My husband cut off his thumb when I was pregnant with our daughter. After she was born I considered surgically amputating her thumb as well. So she could look like him. So she could avoid those pesky hangnails and the feeling of smashing her thumb with a hammer. Besides, the doctors would leave just a bit of it, a little stump, so it would still have some function.

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It took me awhile to figure out what it was about the Michael Vick dogfighting case that didn’t sit quite right with me. While I think dogfighting is atrocious and Vick should have been punished for participating in it, the issue was not that black and white to me. While being vilified by the majority of Americans, Vick had also been victimized by the culture in which he was raised–a culture in which dogfighting was socially acceptable. “We never knew there was nothing wrong with it,” his brother is quoted here as saying.

We are all products of our culture.

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We cannot withhold facts for fear of offending because the importance of the information outweighs people’s right to not be challenged in their beliefs. -Maddy Reid

When I was pregnant with my daughter my midwife asked if I would circumcise if I had a boy. My first two thoughts were: “Isn’t that just what you do?” and “It seems like such a bizarre thing to do.”

After that appointment I went online to look for information and within minutes was watching a video of the procedure. . . with sound. My husband found me crying a short time later, and I told him I would never do that to any son of mine.

When my midwife asked me again at my next appointment if I’d decided whether or not to circumcise I said, “no way.” As it’s been said about circumcision, the more you know, the more you’re against it. In truth, I’d sooner gnaw off my own arm than subject my non-consenting child to such a barbaric act. (I’m fairly certain that’s not an exaggeration.)

Months passed before I revisited the issue, though. (Some issues are so disturbing they must be left alone in a dark corner for a while.) When I did I discovered that:

  • The foreskin is not a useless flap of skin. It provides an immunological and physical barrier against disease and supports the growth of beneficial bacteria. It also contains thousands of nerve endings and offers a gliding action that enhances sexual pleasure.
  • Circumcision became popular in the U.S. as a means to prevent masturbation. Dr. John Harvey Kellogg, of breakfast cereal fame, recommended it as a preventative measure and as punishment for those caught masturbating, for whom the procedure would preferably be performed without anesthesia. (He recommended carbolic acid for girls’ genitals.)
  • Circumcision is painful. The foreskin must be ripped and cut away from the glans, to which, in infancy, it is adhered like a fingernail to a finger. Anesthesia is not always used and even when it is, it’s inadequate.
  • Circumcision does not prevent UTIs or HIV or any other STD. (European countries have far lower rates of both circumcision and HIV than the U.S.) Antibiotics can easily treat UTIs, and condoms and abstinence prevent STDs.
  • Circumcision can disrupt a previously established breastfeeding relationship.
  • Circumcision can lead to complications including infection, excessive blood loss, excessive skin removal, loss of glans (head of penis) and other deformities, sexual dysfunction in later life, and death.
  • Over time the exposed glans becomes keratinized and loses sensitivity, as it is forced to become an external organ that must weather constant chafing from clothes.
  • The U.S. and Israel are the only two countries in the world where the majority of male infants are circumcised. (In Muslim countries circumcision occurs anytime during childhood.)
  • Females are protected by U.S. law from routine infant circumcision.
  • The female genital mutilation we abhor in other countries is ethically no different from male genital mutilation (aka circumcision) in the U.S.
  • No major medical association in the world recommends circumcision.

The more I learned, yes, the more I was against it. The more pissed off I was, to be precise. Pissed off that the wool could be pulled over the eyes of so many well-meaning parents–my friends, my family members. Pissed off that the natural penis is billed as unclean, unhealthy and ugly, and the foreskin as useless. Pissed off that our culture has decided that baby girls have the right to genital integrity, but baby boys do not. Pissed off that men and their partners are missing out on the full sexual experience as nature intended it. Pissed off that anyone other than the owner of the penis would be granted the right to make irreversible decisions about it for strictly cosmetic and cultural reasons.

We are all products of our culture. And sometimes culture needs to be called out on being a horrifically shitty mess.

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I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better. -Maya Angelou

To learn more about the functions of the foreskin and to be inspired to change our circumcision culture visit:

Doctors Opposing Circumcision

Jews Against Circumcision

The Whole Network

Intact Network

Peaceful Parenting

Saving Our Sons

Keeping Future Sons Intact

Psychology Today series

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Of course I didn’t really consider surgically removing my daughter’s thumb. That would be ridiculous, wouldn’t it?

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Apples and orangutans

As I understand it, comparing birth in the hospital (even natural birth) to birth at home is like comparing apples to orangutans. They’re entirely different beasts. So when my mom asked if I would be OK having my midwife’s backup OB attend my birth, I told her I’d be OK, but that it’s definitely not what I want.

So what do I want? (Warning: generalizations to follow.)

I want the caregiver I’ve spent hours with throughout my pregnancy to be present for the duration of my labor. This does not happen in a hospital. I want a human monitoring me, not a machine. This does not happen in a hospital. I want to be an active participant in the birth of my child, not a bedridden, powerless, sick seeming person waiting for the doctor to “deliver” my baby. This does not always happen in a hospital. If we so choose, I want photos and videos taken of the birth, not to be told it is not allowed (because those photos and videos could be used as evidence in a lawsuit, and thereby making parents unwittingly complicit in covering up potential malpractice against their family). This does not always happen in a hospital. I don’t want my body and my baby to be on put on a timeline. This does not happen in a hospital. I don’t want pitocin and/or c-section to be the solution for a “slow” labor; I want to be told to get up, move around, and push my baby out. This does not happen in a hospital. I don’t want anyone I haven’t invited, especially strangers, to come into my space while I labor. This does not happen in a hospital. If I so choose and it’s not a game day, I want the entire University of Georgia football cheerleading squad to be in attendance. This does not happen in a hospital. During labor I want to be able to eat crackers or filet mignon, depending on my mood. This does not happen in a hospital. I want to eat them in bed, the bathtub, the backyard, or wherever else I may choose. This does not happen in a hospital. I don’t want my baby taken from me, not even for one minute, if he or she is healthy. This does not happen in a hospital. I want my baby to be born peacefully into dim lighting, quiet voices, and gentle hands. This does not happen in a hospital.

But this is just what I want. Others may want the exact opposite. And that’s OK. I think where complications arise, though, is when mothers want exactly what I want, but they want it in a hospital, and as the Navelgazing Midwife has said, “if you buy the hospital ticket, you go for the hospital ride.”

(While that attitude keeps my head from exploding in anger at hospital practices that go against commonsense and even research, it also grants a level of acceptability to those practices. Is it not so different from saying it’s OK for a man to beat his wife because she chooses to stay with him?)

Apples and orangutans, folks. Apples and orangutans.

The True Story of Dr Andrew Wakefield

Dr. Andrew Wakefield is the man behind the 1998 controversy saying that the MMR vaccine caused autism. The weekly produced medical journal, The Lancet supported the claim that autism and vaccines were linked, but it was later discredited. Dr. Andrew Wakefield is the doctor who gave birth to the fraudulent claim.

His “proof” encouraged parents not to vaccinate their children for the deadly diseases they prevent because of the autism claim. Many parents followed this fake news and did not vaccinate their children. As a result, we started hearing of cases of measles cropping up from this revelation of a medical travesty. Dr. Andrew Wakefield was investigated by several medical sources and his claim was found to false. The doctor was charged with medical misconduct in May 2010 and was removed from the medical register which meant he could no longer practice medicine in the UK.

The results of the investigation for the vaccine were that it does not cause autism, and getting it outweighed the risks. Lawyers that were filing suit for parents of children with autism were rejected on the premise of the fraudulent paper put forth by Dr. Andrew Wakefield. In a 2011 journal article, this hoax was called the most damaging hoax in 100 years in the UK.

After the measles outbreaks in 1992 England, British authorities showed a rise in measles in school age children. In 1994 Britain began a vigorous country-wide campaign to vaccinate every child against measles, mumps, and rubella. Every school, age child up to the age of 16 was given the vaccine. From this time on, children were vaccinated.

This “controversy” reached the United States and parents also stopped vaccinations. But in the US, if a child is not vaccinated they are denied entry to school, preschool included because of the risk of spreading the disease to others. In the wake of this fraud in the UK, many legal actions have taken place including ethics reviews. Besides the US and Britain, Italy and Japan were also affected.

Autism diagnoses increased in the 1990s and 2000s but this is due to changes in the way it is diagnosed. And advances in medical tools, used for discovering the abnormality. The outbreaks from the non-vaccinated children were in all of the affected countries and the paper by Dr. Andrew Wakefield. The panic that ensued was directly related to his false information and fear mongering.

Concerned parents do their best to protect their children from avoidable instances and they were protecting their children, albeit based on poor information, they thought since he is a doctor it has to be true. Any parent would do this, but once it was proven that the vaccine did NOT cause autism, lawsuits were filed by parents of children who had autism after receiving the shot. The suits were dismissed once the official results of the testing and discovery were finished.

This controversial and false report is still quoted today, in 2017 as a reason for not vaccinating children so to those who refuse to be educated are still perpetuating the autism claims as real.